she says he says

I want to understand, really I do. I just get so lost in the hypocrisy that it feels nearly impossible to find any kind of sense in it all. Role's reversed (which they have been) I would "be in the dog house" ...so-to-speak. All hell would break loose, and it would be an ongoing battle for a few days. So when you get up and do the exact same thing, why is it wrong of me to be upset? Why is it expected of me to sit here, compliant and accepting when the same favor can not be returned? I just can't wrap my head around it. I go, it's wrong. I stay, and feel trapped, it's wrong. You go, it's fine. You stay, it's fine. Well what I want to understand is how did it become so unbalanced? Is the same respect not supposed to be given to each parties? Are the same rules not to apply? I go out, during the day - when your not home... and it's an argument. You go out, at night - when I am home... and I am expected to sit pretty and smile? Expectations are growing a bit thick, and it's suffocating. Maybe a clearer road, a set out list of expectations, a rule of thumb perhaps? I would just like to be given the respect of a common ground, and a mutual respect.