bruised and battered

Pattern's tell you everything you need to know about someone. Pattern's can go as far as to tell you what will come in your future, what you will endure and face in a relationship (or as an individual). What I have come to realize is that admitting too and accepting our patterns is a difficult process. It requires us to put it all on the table and examine our faults, habits and insecurities. From experience, I can tell you it is more than pulling teeth to even get myself to go through this process - let alone trying to get someone else to do it as well. This is where trust and honesty come in to play. Without those two vital organs of a relationship, you've basically got an empty carcass of a relationship that will inevitably crash and burn. So when you begin to evaluate your patterns, you may come to find a lot of ugly things about someone you love - or even harder, yourself. It's a very big job - and I think we all want to believe love shouldn't be work. I don't believe it though, I think everything in life takes work. Anything you care about, anything you want from life - is going to take work, dedication, and time. It's whether or not the time is available, the dedication is strong and the work ethic is present. If we live through it, and we come out at the end of the tunnel with a lesson learned and a fresh perspective - we will concur all, and never look back. Or maybe - maybe the truth's been told.. maybe we have gone as far as we can, and there is nothing to say. There's only one way to find out - and like it's been stated... a lot of work is ahead.