if you turn your head long enough and let it happen naturally

I look at someone, and immediately start to make connections - think about things they may have thought at a certain point in time, or the way they may feel about something - or even how they feel about themselves. A women I used to know with very large teeth, always stuck out in my mind. I always figured when she conceived her children she would secretly wish "I hope they don't get my teeth!" - but who am I to assume that? She may love her large teeth, and think they are her best feature. I don't think I've realized before now that this is how I go about meeting new people - I automatically start to pick out things, play out scenarios, imagine what they'd be like one-on-one or in a very large uncomfortable group setting. I'm not sure why I focus on these sorts of things, but I'm almost sure it takes away any chance of purely getting to know someone. I assume, and I criticize, and I play out every possible scenario in my head before it even has a chance to happen. I was doomed from that start.