what is 9 months?

It's starting to wear on me. It's starting to put a distance between me and anyone who thinks they are being helpful by offering up what they think we should be doing. The casual questioning of how we will afford it.. the sudden interest some people are showing in regards to what Tim will do during this time, when he will go back to work... the remarks like "Tim probably won't want to stay home the whole 9 months anyways..." I'm so sick of feeling like there is some need for justification! I just don't understand how hardly anyone can look at this and say "WOW! Good for him! What a great opportunity for him to bond with his son, and strengthen his relationship with the girls!" I'm so sick of watching Tim being put in a spot of critique for taking on the weight load with me, for WANTING to try his hand in being a stay-at-home-dad... why is that so hard for people to get a hold of? Shouldn't we be honoring him? Shouldn't we, instead of questioning it, congratulate it - offer up encouragement, advice and a pat on the back? Our society is so fearful of stepping out of the ordinary and doing what's best for our families that we end up overlooking what is best for our kids. and I can be sympathetic to the concern - what I can't be sympathetic to is the ignorance placed on the fact that we ARE mature, responsible adults... and we wouldn't be doing it if we couldn't. What it comes down to is people go into debt for much sillier things (like a big fucking T.V, or a shiny new trophy car..) than us going into a very small amount of debt for a period of time in our lives that we will never experience again. After all, we only live life once ... and our children are only babies once. If you can't understand how much more important this period of our lives is, than paying off some of the inevitable debt we carry.. than I'm not sure you understand much about what's important in life. There isn't a price I can put on having you home with us, learning and experiencing fatherhood for all that it can be. Whether or not it comes from anywhere else - WE appreciate you, and love for you all that you do.